The Bougie Dating Coach Podcast
Sober from the Ex: Why We Reach Back and How to Stay Strong
Episode Summary
In this episode, we explore the emotional, psychological, and even social reasons why people often feel tempted to reconnect with an ex and practical strategies for staying strong and focused on moving forward. You are not alone there is hope and you don't have to feel stuck in the cycle you've worked so hard to heal from.
Episode Notes
In this episode, we dive deep into the reasons why we feel the urge to reconnect with an ex and how to build resilience to move forward with clarity and confidence. Whether it’s about overcoming emotional habits, breaking unhealthy cycles, or standing firm in your decision to move on, this episode is packed with practical advice and heartfelt encouragement.
Key Takeaways
Why We Reach Back to an Ex:
- Emotional bonds and familiarity can feel safe, even if they’re unhealthy.
- Nostalgia and selective memory can cloud our judgment and make the past seem better than it was.
- Fear of loneliness often convinces us to settle rather than face the uncertainty of new beginnings.
Staying Strong and Moving On:
- Set Boundaries: Create space by limiting or eliminating contact with your ex.
- Challenge Your Perspective: Reflect on why the relationship ended and what you truly need in a healthy connection.
- Prioritize Self-Care: Reclaim your energy by focusing on personal growth and fulfilling activities.
- Lean on Your Support System: Surround yourself with friends, family, or a therapist for accountability and encouragement.
- Envision Your Future: Stay grounded in your worth and focused on the relationship you deserve.
Featured Highlights:
- A heartfelt listener story about breaking free from the “on-again, off-again” cycle.
- A guided exercise to help you detach emotionally and create a vision for your future relationships.
- Practical tools for overcoming moments of weakness when tempted to reach back.
Episode Challenge
This week’s challenge is to take a step toward closure. Write a list of the top three reasons your last relationship ended and how letting go aligns with your future goals. Share your progress on Instagram using the hashtag #SoberFromTheEx and tag me for a chance to be featured!
Resources Mentioned:
- Book Recommendation: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.
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